As women we tend to put ourselves last. We get to our breaking point and realize we don't know how we got to the chaos in our lives. We put ourselves through physical, mental, spiritual and emotional pain. My goals is for us to able to take care of ourselves before we get to a breaking point. In order to be productive, we must be healthy. When I talk about investing in our self and health, I'm talk about REALLY investing in ourselves. Making sure we are doing things daily to improve our health and wellness.
What does it mean to take care of ourselves?
When I talk about taking care of ourselves, I'm talking about doing it in a way that does not disrupt our lives. It is always good to splurge on ourselves: going to the spa, movies, getting our hair and nails done, eating out, trips, etc. However, financially and time constraints do not allow us to always splurge daily. Taking care of ourselves means being with ourselves in the difficult moments throughout our day. It's about slowing down taking a few moments to get ourself together to be our best. In all moments of frustrations, anxiety, happiness, relaxation, we need to learn about ourselves, how we react to stresses, and what we yearn for when we want to relax. Below, I outline how to take care of ourselves in three form: Emotionally/mentally. Physically. Spiritually.
Family and friend relations.
Are the people in your life a benefit or a stress point. Ask yourself is how do you feel after you have met with someone. Do you feel better, motivated, encouraged or do you feel down, stressed, anxiety. These feeling tells you how you should interacting and prepare yourself when you are meeting up with certain people. I'm not saying to cut people out of your life if they cause you anxiety, stress, overwhelmed, but know and recognize what feelings come up will help you get those negative emotions out afterward. There are people in your life that are there for a reason sometimes they need you more than you need them. But take care of yourself. After a meeting with someone that causes you anxiety Maybe going for walk afterward to clear you mind will help. Maybe just being alone for thirty mins will allow you to regain and relax from the situation. Making sure you keep your boundaries and allowing certain people into your life at certain times so the you can keep your mental health checked.
In the moment.
When you have to take care of yourself in the moment what can you do? You maybe in a important meeting or you have to go to places that are out of your comfort zone etc. but your mentally not feeling your best. What can you do in the moment. Go to your five senses and work through them. This will allow you to relax and get your mind together. Look at things that bring you comfort. Listen to something that relaxes you. Taste something the calms you. Feel something that brings you comfort. Smell the flowers on the way recognize their gifts. Make a list of things you can do. Go to your list when you need to mentally take care of yourself. Once you start doing them more you will realize they all comes naturally. The list will be gone and you will be left with living in the moments of comfort.
Being prepared helps calm your nerves, helps you be confident and allows you to feel secure. You don't have to know and be everything but preparing yourself for you days help you take care of yourself mentally.Physical
Giving yourself space. Sometimes you have to be alone in order to discover who we are. We are constantly surrounded by others, looking after others. Even if it's just a few mins a day, or you choose to splurge on a whole day alone. Take that time to allow yourself to heal. Take the time to write, read, thinking about yourself. Do what you want to do. There is empowerment in being alone.
Taking care of your body. Your body is the only that will be with you your whole entire life. Its been there since day one. We need to take care of it. Nourishment, health and wellness. However, you choose to take care of your body do it.Spiritual
Real happiness. Find your real happiness. Ask yourself what is it that you love to do that brings a smile to your face and fills up your soul? What makes you really happy. Becoming more aware of what brings you happiness will drive you to your ultimate lifestyle dreams. Knowing what makes your soul happy will allow you to use it as a tool to keep yourself grounded.
Strive for peace. Find out what brings you peace. Is it that cup of coffee in the morning or is it that long five mile run? Whatever it is that allows you to be at peace with yourself then do it.
No matter your believes or religion. Being spiritual and understanding that there is a higher power that is guiding you and helping you through the process in this world. It's a sense of belonging and a feeling that is beyond this world. With that being said being spiritual is about being happy and to be happy you have to serve and realize that happiness comes when you have meaning in your life. Finding that meaning is a daily process.
We think that this may cost us a lot but it doesn't. It shouldn't cost us anything. It's talking about what really matters how are we going to take care of our self and our health. We have a take of ourselves emotionally, physically and spiritually. These things have nothing to do with money. We need to take care of ourselves by making sure that we involve self-care into every aspect of our lives so that when we are doing something we are also taking care of ourselves while doing it.