Do you ever feel like after you've met with somebody that all of your energy is gone. You really didn't get anything out of the conversations, the meeting that you had with that person. Feeling drained, unmotivated and the need to take care of yourself.
My intentions with meeting up with other people is to relax, have a good time, and clear my mind of whatever is going on in my life. My goal is to be present, to bring joy and to have friendship and companionship with others. When meeting up with others become draining and difficult it makes me feel like that friendship or relationship is not going anywhere, anymore. It's not evolving, It's not helping me grow as a person. It's not bring in goodness. It's not to be mean and it's not to put others down. As cliché as it sounds it's literally like we're going on different paths. We are growing apart from each other. We need to be strong enough to say," That's OK." We need to learn to accept that people come and go in our lives. We cannot expect everyone to stay. It may be me, it maybe you. It most likely is both of US. We have to be grown enough to say you are growing in your path and I'm growing in mine. We may not be in the same direction, but maybe in the future we will meet again. Growing means we can say I love the time that we had together, the memories that we shared, the lessons we have learned from each other. But we both have to let go in order for us to continue on our individual paths.
Often times people think friendship, relationship, companionship is a lifelong path. It's not. It ends and starts at different moments. When we are able to realize and except that it may not last forever then I believe when we start drifting away from each other it makes it easier, it makes our heart hurt less. It makes us realize anything good or bad that comes into out life is always good. There always lessons that we can learn. We need to build friendships, relationships, companionship that evolves and grows with us.
I can tell you that I only have a handful of friends. I love it. I love each and every one of them. I know if I needed something they would be there. I also can tell you that it has taken me a long time to get to where I am at. It took really analyzing why I was friends with someone. How that friendship made me feel. Who would be initiate meeting up. What would be discuss during our meet ups. When it started feeling drained, I had to really dig for answers. I had to understand myself, my wants and needs and see if it fit into the friendship in the first place. All was not lost, I have many friends that I can call true friends and true relationships. They are amazing and beautiful in their own crazy way.
Type of friendship I/you want and need
Have you ever met someone and clicked so easily. It's that type of feeling that you want. You feel like you've known that person your whole entire life. Those are the type of people you want to keep in your life. There is no hidden reason why you click so fast you just do. The best friendship are the ones where you can say anything to each other and know that no one will get hurt feelings. What you are saying to benefit each other, to help each other and to see the best in each other. The friendship where you bring each other up, support each other and strive to better each other. The type of friendship where you know you will be there for each other no matter what. No one person is making more effort than another. Understanding that life happens and sometimes we get so busy we don't have the time to talk but when that phone or text comes in we are right there. We are not afraid that we will be bothering each other, or second guessing if we should even say anything. We couldn't talk for months but pick up right where we left off when we do start communicating again. These are the type of friendship that you want.